This morning, I hung a new painting on my wall. It was done by Charles Passarelli; a 92 year old artist who spends his summers up here in the Leelanau Peninsula painting and teaching workshops in watercolor.
The painting joins three others done by well known painters and they all share the same subject matter: Willowbrook Mill. That’s the wedding and event venue I own with my family and it’s a charming and beautiful space that’s stood on this land since 1879. Well known and well loved as locals and tourists alike hold memories of this place from all its incarnations through the years.
When I hung the new painting, I turned to look at the three other pieces we have of Willowbrook and it was so clear how differently each painter had seen the exact same subject. And these aren’t just painters with a small “p”. These are PAINTERS. Plein Air winners and highly sought after artists known around the country. Hell, one of them, Neil Walling, literally, wrote the book on Plein Air Painting. And there they were, painting this sweet old building.
The differences in the images were angles and locations that gave them their best view on that day in that particular light. Their styles are different, from the dreamy soft strokes of Pat’s painting to the crisp, almost photographic brilliance of shadows, light and detail in Charless’ piece.
Same subject yet different circumstances, different perspectives, different feelings. It just depends on who’s looking.
Looking at the different perspectives, I remembered doing a personal growth workshop years ago. At one point during the workshop weekend, a participant was in a conversation with the presenter about an ongoing war he was locked into with a relative. “But she’s wrong! That’s not who I am! Why does she think that? Ask anyone and they’ll tell you! I am not that kind of person!”
The presenter chuckled and then proceeded to share this gem. I paraphrase because it’s been a long freaking time since I heard it but it was so good a response that it burned into my hippocampus like the Oscar Meyer bologna jingle.
He said, “Dude. If I brought 100 people into this room who have known you at 100 different points in your life, they would tell us 100 different stories about who you are. Why? Because each experience of you is unique. It comes with a fresh perspective of who you are right this moment if they just met you. Or maybe it comes with an airport full of baggage if it’s someone like a sibling who still hasn’t resolved the missing Hot Wheels Crisis of 1970. It depends on who’s looking at you. “
And damn if that isn’t the truth. It sure as hell is when it comes to me.
To some people, I am the shoulder they lean on, the maker of tea and the bringer of the soft blanket so they can curl up and escape the world for a while. To others, I am the evil overlord who swept in and severed the ties to the free flowing cash cow that they relied on to maintain their worry free (to them) existence. Or I’m the business woman who doesn’t have a filter when it comes to getting things done that need doing. In my 20s, I had a friend who called me Frank. A little bit because of my last name. A lot because I said whatever the hell I wanted to say.
100 different people, 100 different versions of me. And every one of them is 100% accurate.
To those individuals, given the little information they had about me and given whatever the source was that gave them this information, they formed a picture that will never be changed until they actually spend time with me and dispel rumors to learn the truth.
I have a nephew who grew up far away from me and our only interactions were few and far between when he was little. Everything he thought he knew about me, he learned from my sister; a famously unreliable source. We had the opportunity to spend several days together when his own sister got married in the South and each evening, after his wife put their daughter to bed, we would sit and talk into the night.
On the last day of the wedding festivities he shook his head and said he was completely blown away at how opposite every one of his expectations about me were, given the story he had been fed all of his life. Apparently, I would have been a great character in a Stephen King novel complete with Satanic worship and veins running with hydrochloric acid. Huh.
Sadly, people’s thoughts, opinions, positions, judgements are not visible like the different views and perspectives we can see in pieces of art.
Maybe it’s why we are so drawn to art. It’s so real. There it sits for us to ponder. A painting, a sculpture, a song, a story. All the dark and light, beauty and ugliness, depth and shallowness there for our eyes and hearts and minds to do with what we will.
Many years ago, I started a project I was calling The Three Questions. These three questions would “paint” a picture of your relationship with another person. They would, if the participants were brave enough to be honest, tell you exactly what you need to know about who you are to them. And it would tell them exactly how you wish that would change.
Are you ready for the questions? Here we go…
How do I see you?
How do I think you see me?
How do I wish you saw me?
That’s it. So simple. So clear. So deadly. Take a moment and think through the people who affect you in your life and just imagine their answers to these questions. And remember that their responses are coming from historical data they have about you and also where their perspective was when the data was “collected”.
I double dog dare you to do this with at least three people. Buckle up. You’re going to get a painting of yourself that will either have you crying tears of joy at the love fest or reaching for the headache meds and dark place to curl up as you rethink everything you thought was true. So, yeah. Have fun with that!
Good morning. GOOD morning. Good MORNING! Such an innocuous statement. It really shouldn’t elicit a Sci-Fi level of goose bumps and foreboding and yet, here we are.
14,965. That’s how many times I’ve heard Good Morning just from the H. in the past 40 years.
Were they all good mornings? Of course not. Because I am not a robot. And that is why my case feels so cranked at this moment.
This morning the daily greeting slapped me upside the head like Bill Murray realizing he was caught in a groundhog day loop…still. I know what H said, but what I heard was “Reset to Start.” My response, like so many mornings in the past few decades, has devolved into a monosyllabic grunt somewhere between *hey* and *ungh*. I don’t want to do the same day over and over until the end of my time on the planet. I want to mix it up! And it appears that even if I begin the “who talks first” morning ritual, the response is…. You guessed it.
It’s time for some new morning greetings beyond that two word replication. Something with some style, some humor. Just another way to acknowledge that, yes, we have survived sleep mode one more time. My favorite would be the recent meme, “So, it appears the assassins have failed again.” Love that. But it’s only fresh once.
Maybe “Weird dreams last night?” or how about “Did that new pillow configuration make your neck hurt less?” Or even a segue like, “…as I was saying…” or, “Welcome back!” Anything would be better than 14,966. Anything!
We hold onto rituals we think are required pleasantries without ever stopping to ask why or if we can change them or delete the practice altogether. Like saying “Bless you” after someone sneezes. It’s Medieval. Literally. They believed that in the exact moment a sneeze happened, that your heart stopped beating and it was a prime opportunity for the devil to jump into your heart. So they quickly stopped that chance with a sticky God Gob blocking the entrance until you were back to monitoring your own devil holes.
If you grow up Catholic, there are a plethora of weird and archaic practices like the God Gob Devil Blocker move. We didn’t question them because we also believed that a bunch of guys in dresses and women in scary penguin costumes had some magical access to the inner workings of the Universe and to question them was to put our very souls in jeopardy.
I guess we should feel lucky we dodged a bullet that they didn’t make a required catch phrase for other body functions as well. Though some 10 year old part of my brain is itching to hear the approved flatulence mantra. Mine would be “Christ on a cracker! What died inside you?”
My new mission is finding alternatives to expected social pleasantries. No more “Have a good day!” From now on, it shall be “Have a different day!”
Thanks for letting me vent. Now, get out there and make up some ridiculous sayings to change the trajectory of your day.
I am thankful for the beautiful spaces of my home and my work that flow with people and the opportunity they offer to witness as we celebrate happy things, mourn our losses, commiserate on worldly matters, or laugh out loud over the perfect madness of life on Earth
I am thankful for a community that rallies when one of us needs something we can not do alone
I am thankful when cancer fails at its job to wreck a life
I am thankful for the change agents who make loud noises about things and wake others up to the fact that the old system no longer works and it is time find a better way
I am thankful to the Universe that has coaxed and cajoled, led and dragged me towards the next and the next and the next small and large adventure in my life
I am thankful to the ever growing circle of family and friends who have arrived at my door on the road of love and for my chance to welcome them in
I am thankful for the gifts of music and art and word crafting and food creation that keep my soul skipping like a kid to their wild playgrounds
I am thankful for this new day where there is another chance for hard hearts and closed tight minds to open and stay that way
I am thankful for the rich and funny, small and large conversations I have had with friends, loved ones and strangers that brought baskets of ideas and inexplicable joy
And I am thankful for my life and the thousand things that allow me to dream something that is not there now and the ability to make them happen
A few years ago, when Betsy Ernst started talking about raising money so we could open our own Pottery Studio here at the Northport Arts Association I had one of those full body shivers. The kind that rattles your soul a bit and whispers in your ear, “Pay attention! This is gonna be good!”
The last time my hands were covered in slip and happily shaping things from clay was way back in the early 1970s out in Scottsdale, Arizona.
My good friend who had moved there from Morristown, New Jersey had gotten a brand new neighbor. When he introduced me to Sissy, she was unpacking her things after relocating from Asbury Park. Her former roommate back home was dating some musician named Springsteen. I wonder what happened to that guy. Sissy was a free bird, hippy-dippy chick like me and amongst her moving treasures were stained glass making tools and clay things.
She shared a lot of skills and we had a great time getting messy and making art. Life happened and things changed as they always do. Divorce. Moving North. Moving South. Remarriage. Kids. Work. Moving North again. Kids launching out into the world. Moving farther North. You know the drill. Somewhere along the road, things just filled in the space where clay used to live.
So here I am now, four days away from jumping into a clay class with the NAA teacher, Tina Greco and I am ridiculously excited!
When my kids asked me what I wanted for Christmas last year, I announced that I was going to take clay classes at the brand new NAA Clay Studio after the wedding season was over at Willowbrook. My son presented me with a clay tool set that has way too much stuff in it but I’m eventually going to use every single thing.
The point is that a lot of us left things that brought us joy somewhere back along the road and until the Universe drops a big sign in front of us, we sort of forget what we used to love.
Anticipating these classes is like remembering a song I loved. I can hum the tune, but I’ve forgotten the words. I’m thinking that when I get in there with Tina guiding me, the words will come back again and I’ll be singing some clay pieces to life with the same joy I had when I was 22.
It’s a great time to check out the classes at the Northport Arts Association! We’re growing more every day and the variety of classes is impressive! Renew your membership if you’ve let it lapse or get over here and join us!
Find your joy again and let’s see what’s been hiding in your artistic soul waiting to be asked to come out into the light.
There’s a quiet beauty in entering a creative person’s maker space.
A rough pencil sketch on a scrap of manilla drawing paper. Jars with carefully cleaned brushes that still hold just a whisper of Viridian oil paint near the ferrule. A box of pastel chalks; the pinks unused, while colors for shading nature rest as nubs and bits and powder. Tupperware boxes filled with used oil tubes that give away the color source of farm fields and rolling clouds out over the bay.
You can see which were the most beloved colors in the way the tubes had been rolled to get every last bit of Ultramarine Blue, Indigo, Prussian and Horizon. Just a few in the arsenal of blues that let him give the world what I now identify as a “Gene Rantz Sky”.
Last Saturday, Betsy Ernst and I went to Gene’s studio at the invitation of Bill Rantz, Gene’s son. He wanted us to pick some things for the Gene & Judy Rantz Youth Foundation Scholarship program at NAA. We gathered books, paper, brushes, paints and other things our young students can use.
We took our time looking around the studio while we chatted with Bill & Colleen Rantz and Lisa, from the estate auction house. Among the things left there, waiting … ready to get back to the making, there were books on art and books on philosophical meanderings. A small bird’s nest catching light by a window. A can of soup no doubt to remind him to stop and eat something. There were vertical stacks of sketches he’d done for practice at the Monday Night Figure Drawing Classes that Chris Woomer teaches.
There were easels and work tables; an enlarger for architectural sized copies and dozens of large and small tools for bringing to life whatever his imagination could conjure.
We saw watercolors, oils and pencil drawings in every stage of completion that sat looking back at us as if to say they were on the way, but not there yet.
My favorite things were the paint palettes. Covered in whatever dabs and smears and mixes Gene needed while he worked. Wood and hardboard and even a piece of glass held the primordial soup from which each creation emerged unique and beautiful.
And the glove. That one hit me in the heart. The cloth glove that Gene had used so many times to blend and smooth and wipe a wet canvas that the paint had stiffened it. I stood it up on the worktable so I could take a picture and that was the thing that had me step away and shed a few tears. So real and so tangible, this simple glove awaiting the hand that needed it.
And there were new supplies at the studio as well. Stacks of brand new canvases, watercolor paper, oil paint sets and lots of picture frames!
So many of us were friends of Gene and his luminescent wife, Judy, who moved in the world like a human bundle of wildflowers. Losing them both, one after the other, was a stunning reminder that life is short and we’d better get on to making our own contributions to the world sooner rather than later.
Now, it’s your turn. On May 15, 2022, Bill Rantz will be holding a sale and auction of Gene’s studio contents. For artists looking to add to their supplies, the items I’ve mentioned will be available for sale. And for those of us who want a memento of our friend there will be an auction. Artifacts of a life well-lived; small treasures and tools; sketches and art pieces, wooden art boxes and work lights amongst the offerings.
Part of the proceeds from the sale will be donated by the very generous Rantz family to the Gene & Judy Rantz Youth Art Foundation Scholarship Program at NAA. We are grateful and we want the Rantz family to know that we will continue to hold Gene in our collective hearts.
I’m pretty sure that if Gene were here he’d say, “Ok. people. That’s enough. Get back in your studios and make something.”
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